So we all know The Nice Guy, right? How many of you have dated The Nice Guy? Now how many of you have dumped The Nice Guy or not even date him because he was The Nice Guy?
It’s ok, I passed on The Nice Guy in high school too. I dated the Bad Boy who then turned into the Abuser but after that I still avoided The Nice Guy. I did date one Nice Guy and ended up breaking up with him because…he was too nice. I dated The Cowboy, The Athlete, The Gay Guy but passed up The Nice Guy. Why? Why do we pass up The Nice Guy and why do we break up with him because “he’s too nice”. Why?!

I finally gave The Nice Guy a shot…when I was in my late twenties, after being single for years and really had nothing to lose. I ended up marrying that Nice Guy and have an amazing life with him. And I hope and pray that one day my daughter finds her a Nice Guy too.

If you know my husband, you will agree he’s the nicest guy out there. Would help you in a bind, never meets a stranger, he’s just nice. I was scared of his “niceness” at first. It threw me off. Why was he so nice? What did he want? What was he trying to get from me?

He was nice because that’s who he is. He wanted to build a relationship with me. He was trying to get me to trust and love him. He succeeded.

I often take for granted my Nice Guy and I have to stop and remember how blessed I am to finally have a good guy. For years, I didn’t believe good guys existed or that I deserved one.I think too often we take for granted the Nice Guys out there.And I’m not talking about guys who are nice by buying you things or sending you flowers or taking you on trips, etc., yes those are nice “things” but I’m talking about the nice things money can’t buy.

I’m talking about the Nice Guy who leaves an I love you note on your vanity so you see it first thing when you get up in the morning, I’m talking about the Nice Guy who will randomly tell you look beautiful while wearing sweats and no makeup but he completely means it, I’m talking about the Nice Guy who prays for you out loud because he truly appreciates you. That’s nice.

I can count on my two hands the number of times I’ve done dishes. I don’t have to beg my husband to change a dirty, explosive diaper. I hear my husband pray for me every day. I hear I love you the first thing in the morning and the last thing at night before I go to bed. I never doubt the love my husband has for our Lord, for me and for our daughter. That’s nice.

I remember when our daughter was just around 6 weeks old and would not go to sleep and I had tried everything; nursed her, rocked her, sang to her but nothing would work. I was getting frustrated and defeated and right when I was about to break, I heard my husband’s voice say “give her to me, go sleep.” I literally collapsed in bed & didn’t wake for another 4 hours when I needed to nurse her. He rescued me that night from feeling like a failure. The next morning he simply hugged & kissed me & said I was an amazing mother. That’s nice.

And he continues to rescue me, praise & support me. When I told him about wanting to quit my job, he wasn’t worried or upset & didn’t say no we can’t do that, he said “I want you to be happy & I know you’re not. If I have to live off sandwiches for the next year I’ll do it. I want you to be happy, that’s what matters to me.” That’s nice.

Now I don’t want women to think he’s the best husband ever & does nothing wrong. Or men to be like “thanks now my wife is saying why can’t you be more like him?!” Does he do things to drive me crazy? Absolutely! Just last night, I sent him to the grocery store (I know I know, why do you send a man to the grocery store but the Emmy’s were on) and he came back with half of the wrong items & I had to go exchange them at 10 at night. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve repeated stories to him because he doesn’t listen & how many times he’s put my workout clothes or bras in the dryer (yup he does laundry too ☺️) or the number of times he leaves the diaper wipes container open & dries out the wipes. But you know what-those are little things, those might drive me crazy but it’s nothing compared to what I went through in the past. And that’s nice.

He’s not perfect, no one is. But I’ve learned you shouldn’t expect perfect, you shouldn’t want perfect. Perfection is nonexistent in a man or woman.

But you know what you can expect…for some guys to just be nice. And when that Nice Guy comes around, don’t be so quick to brush him off. Give him a chance. God may have just sent that Nice Guy your way because you do deserve a Nice Guy. Who knows, you could end up not doing dishes ever again ….and that’s nice.😉